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Belief Change Grid: Location is often the most important driver

A). Where are your limiting beliefs?

slightly to the left, small, black & white, still picture

B). Where are your old beliefs?

up in the right corner, far away, small, black & white, still picture

C).  Where do you keep your True Beliefs?

Centered, bigger, black & white with some colors, still picture

D). Where are your desired beliefs?

A little above my eyesight,  Centered, Larger than life, black & white with some color, still picture

E). Please list 3 limiting beliefs you would like to replace:

Making Lots of Money is A LOT of Work!!!

Being A Good Mother means my children should never be upset.

I don’t have enough time to do all the things I need to do during the day.

F).  List what empowering or desired beliefs you would rather have:

Making Lots of Money is Fun, Energizing & Worth While!!!

Being a Good Mother means enjoying my children & appreciating all their different moods.

I have all the time in the world necessary to accomplish my dreams!!!

G). After running my 3 limiting beliefs through the Belief change grid I noticed a difference in just shifting the submodalities locations. I actually felt more empowered & energized after the shifts. I felt more at peace & comfortable with what is… I also felt a sense of more energy. Which, was the biggest thing I really noticed. I would say my main driver in this was the location – next was the size. However, the colors or black & white really made no difference to me!

I wrote this article for a continuing education course at www.ModernJedi.com

College Grad to Divorcee? How do those have anything in common?

Well, my client used these two comparisons to change her limiting belief (she was fearful of going back to school & graduating from college) to an old belief (she was a divorced person) this belief used to be true for her but now she is remarried & no longer defines herself as a divorced person. Even though technically she is still divorced from her first husband that belief no longer exists within her. AND she picked this belief so we went with it!

We took her limiting belief & broke it down into the submodalities and then changed gears and went over her old beliefs. We were attempting to tune her limiting belief & transfer it to an old belief that no longer exists for her.

We actually went through this twice because at first, she was having a hard time defining her limited belief because it had been years since she even thought about it. (She has wanted to go back to college for about 10 years – but just the thought of it made her nervous and anxiety ridden) Once she was able to define these submodalities she was able to move it to her old belief where she felt it no longer existed for her anymore!

The true test was, we scheduled her an interview with an admissions advisor at our local college. Before, she would never have even considered doing this. A few days later she called me & told me she met with the advisor & ordered her old transcripts! She is planning on taking a few classes in the Spring!

I wrote this article for a continuing education course at www.ModernJedi.com

In working with a client with the like to dislike script we actually did it as a dislike to like!

My client loves broccolli but hates brussel sprouts! His wife, loves both & makes them often! So, we tried the dislike to like with the two food items.

Right afterward, he didn’t feel the distaste in his mouth when we talked about the brussel sprouts so we knew we had made some progress!

A few days later he called me to let me know that his wife made dinner with brussel sprouts & he was able to eat them without choking them down. This was a huge improvement because before he hated it when his wife made any meal containing brussel sprouts & now he actually ate them!

This is just a simple way NLP can improve your life!

I wrote this article for a continuing education course at www.ModernJedi.com

In a follow up post on submodalities:

When you are using submodalities to make changes with a client it is important to correctly identify a driver. A driver is key to making the change. If you are working with someone who is using auditory submodalities it is important to find the correct driver to help the client make the switch. So, basically the driver is what will cause all the other submodalitites to shift. It is possible, that you will not know the real driver until you begin manipulating them & see the shift occur with the actual driver.

Working with a skilled NLP’er will benefit you because they will know to look for the “drivers” before locking it in!

I wrote this article for a continuing education course at www.ModernJedi.com

What do you feel when you see a picture of the beach and ocean? …  Relaxed?  … at peace?

What do you taste when you imagine yourself sucking on a lemon? … Does your mouth water?

How do you feel when you hear your favorite music? … does it get you pumped up? … or even make you a little sad?

Do you ever wish you could change your feelings or thoughts?

Well, YOU CAN!  By changing your submodalities!!!

Submodalities?!! You ask! Yes, they are our fine tuning knobs of our internal experience.

Submodalities are the manner in which we internally represent the data gathered by our senses.

Visual, Auditory, & Kinesthetic

You can change your feelings of an experience by altering the submodalitities you associate to it. Submodalities are like blueprints or codes of your experience. We all have different submodalities for different feelings. When you run a certain submodality you will feel a particular way.

So, if you are trying to improve or lessen your feelings for someone or something change your submodality for that instance.

If you want help with this? Feel free to contact me~!

I wrote this article for a continuing education course at www.ModernJedi.com